Wednesday, February 9, 2011

Should a chiropractor make you cry?

Today I had my first visit with a chiropractor.  It was long overdue, given my serious (and age-old) struggles in this arena:


The chiropractor thinks that all my problems began when my mama had a C-section (um, not that she had a choice).  She says I was pulled from her belly by my head and neck, which caused vertebral misalignment, which is now the root of my dreadful back pain.  Etc, etc.  In any case, a (slightly) alleviated L5/sacrum intersection was not the only thing I noticed while driving home from her office . . .

I was kind of an emotional basket case!  I got teary-eyed on the drive home, and then wandered around my house thinking about sad songs & failed relationships.  WTF kind of "alignment" did she perform???  Because I was afraid to exercise after my first chiro visit, I instead focused my energies on not breaking into The Box.


There it sits, atop one of the 5 bookshelves in my living room (one just holds movies and magazines.  but the rest are overflowing with books.  I have a problem).  It looks harmless--just a black box--but little does the unknowing visitor know, it contains masses of old love letters that, at a mere glance, can send me into the pitiful throes of nostalgia & longing (and sobbing).

Fortunately, I was successful.  I limited my time listening to my "lovesick volume 5" playlist, only had 2 glasses of wine, and managed to avoid The Box.  But what on earth is going on with me?  Here's hoping that I snap out of it ASAP.

Do any of you have to endure these super-emotional days?  I mean seriously y'all--I got a sweet email from a co-worker and started crying.  This is not very productive . . .

32 comments:

Mrs.B said...

Claire, I don't have a "box", but the weather here in KY has made me a basket case. We have missed so much school it is unreal! I am bored out of my mind.

You did the right thing...music, wine, and staying away from the "box".

...and it's OK to get emotional sometimes.

jeanette from everton terrace said...

That sounds like a very strange office visit to me. Though I had a massage over Christmas and couldn't walk for two days! Claire, ditch the box, it is never going to bring you joy or enrich your life. As long as you are holding onto the past how can you grab onto the future?

Karena said...

Claire,

No it should not make you cry!

That box is damgerous I agree with Jeanette. The wine helps and sometimes we do need a day or two of just being a little down!

Spring will arrive soon and it will be a better year ahead!

xoxo
Karena
Art by Karena

Summer {athena in the middle} said...

next time you are sad, please call me! i will intervene immediately. BOX BE GONE!

so, all of that from your momma's C-Section!?

Signe said...

Be at ease Claire - we all have days like that! Or at least I do! Fingers crossed tomorrow will be brighter and I am crossing my fingers your back will get better :)

Hugs,
Signe

bananas. said...

oh yes...i'm ashamed to say i have. mine are based more on lost loved ones than failed relationships. i'm happy to say my "black box" is long gone. if you need help burning yours, i can be cher and you can be tai and we could burn it together! (reference: clueless, in case you were wonderin). ps. chiros freak me out. they're more like fake doctors to me.

bklyn76 said...

oh hun! well, in terms of physical pain, a chiro visit shouldn't make you cry. and way to go, chiro, make claire think her mama caused her problems. some chiros believe vaginal birth causes misalignment. i think chiros just want to give a reason for giving you an adjustment. that said, i love getting adjusted, and have never felt anything but relief afterward. maybe your emotional state is a release of not only the tension you're holding, but all the emotions bottled up inside? seriously.

and that box would probably send me over the edge. the closest thing i have to that is every email/letter/card b/w me and e. i don't have any written proof of any other relationship. ;)

Miss Chelsea said...

Once I went to the dentist to have a cavity filled and cried for like 5 days afterwards. Even the slightest thing would make me cry... and then my family felt bad so they tried to do nice things to cheer me up and their kindness made me cry hah. I still swear they hit a 'sappy emotional' nerve or something! It was the oddest thing

this free bird said...

okay i'm sick as eff, but wanted to get over here and tell you to get the heck away from that chiro and get to an acupuncturist. my dad, after getting chiro for years, has lost about 20% of the use in one of his legs. FROM VISITING THE SNAPPER. i've warned him for years.

honey. pleeeeeez go to acupuncture. it does not hurt and is so much more therapeutic. i've been going for 7 years and it has saved me so much anxiety and pain.

now about that box. claire don't make me come over there and kick that thing out the window!! claire: step away from the box.

you have my number. i'm bedridden. USE IT

xoxoxo,
carrie

bethany said...

Oh, heavens yes. Sometimes I think every day is one of these days for me.

I've been thinking of cleansing my entire apartment of old love letters and knicknacks from past relationships, because they always tempt me into a few hours of sad, sad thinking. Buuuut, I'm a romantic and I can't quite do that. Yet.

Drink up, girl. Wine covers a multitude of sadness. ;)

Micaela said...

we have the same hurt-- i was a c-section baby too! maybe that explains a lot... oh and let's not forget our love of high heels as a culprit ;)

oh nostalgia... i welcome that cry every once in awhile but good for you to not let it linger too long. when i couldn't part with my black box, i sent it to M when i first moved to VA for safe and FAR keeping...

true girlfriends will let you do that cos everything was exactly g-rated ha

!!!

love you

Micaela said...

ps. because even though i'm happy, sometimes it's good to be reminded of how thankful you are for the road that got you "there." i would never ask my husband to delete every single photo he had of his ex... (except maybe if they were "those kind of photos" which i don't think he has? lol) because when it comes down to it, that's his past... EVERYTHING BEFORE ME. right?

i love what bethany said, "wine covers a multitude of sadness."

Micaela said...

sorry, i don't mean to keep adding comments but i made a huge spelling error on my first one...

should read:

*everything WASN'T exactly g-rated" ooops!

Phoenix Peacock said...

without grieving there is no movement forward. If you store your feelings somatically - the release of the body might be also bring up emotion. It sounds weird but there are studies to back me up on that - so its not just hippy bs.

and I did get rid of a lot of my old letters. I wish I hadn't. I think it would be sweet to reread them now. I think we have this idea that we have to purge our past relationships in order to have future ones. But I don't really agree. While we certainly have to move on and not daydream of past loves while with current ones... my past relationships changed me. They made me ready for my marriage. Without the previous loves - there is no way I'd be the wife I am today. I'm thankful to have made the big mistakes I did so I can avoid them now. I'm thankful to have been with the jerks I was with so that I can really appreciate what a good man my husband is. If I just forgot all about the past - I wouldn't remember that I have grown and that my husband is something to be so grateful for.

Marz said...

I am the queen of nostalgia & longing (and sobbing). I do this all too often. I have NEVER been able to purge myself of the ghosts of relationships past. Which means I have TONS of old photos, cards, letters etc. I couldn't imagine getting rid of it no matter if they say it would help me heal. I just cannot do it. So I too have the box. Only instead of being where it could tempt me, I brought it to my mom's and it sits on top of her closet for me.

Stephanie said...

Everyone has those days! Those are the days I end up having to have a glass of wine and a long hot bath :)
I had to get rid of THE box. I have a few pictures of a few exes. But I definitely got rid of letters, cards, etc.
Good for you for being so strong!!

drollgirl said...

oh dear. sadly i can relate! the older i get, the more emotional i seem to get. eeeek. i cry a lot. i just NEED to. so many things can trigger the tears. it can be tricky to navigate, and i am relieved when i have days and days without tears! it is much nicer to be happier, but i find it hard to live in denial if i am feeling sad!

p.s. smart move to avoid that box, unless you ever really just want to WALLOW in sorrow!

MJ said...

I think sometimes we just need that release. I know there are days when I will cry at everything, sad things, happy things, sweet things, everythings!!

Katy Mary said...

I totally have days like that. I'll randomly just start crying and get all sad sap and whatnot. It happens to the best of us!

Jax said...

Agh! I had a box too! I got rid of it when I moved into this house b/c inevitably, I'd read stuff and cry... But whoa on the chiropractor! ha! I say no more aligning for you, girl! :)

Annie Cristina said...

Monday was my overly emotional day. I would cry at the drop of a hat, no lie, and even an emergency visit to Five Guys and Menchie's didn't do much to alleviate the mopes. I think the only way to get through those days is just to get through them. And sleep -- sleep helps a lot.

Tillie said...

Oh girl! I have a box! Its full of things he gave me, letters he wrote me, things we did together. And every now and then I lose it in an emotional puddle and think about reading it. I have given in a few times, and I tend to just get angry after it vowing to never read it again. I guess there is a comfort in it!!

I hope you are doing okay missy moo!

And on a total other geeky nerd note. Have you thought about going to an osteopath rather than a chiropractor? My uncle is a doctor and he swears black and blue against chiropractors as they tend to neglect the muscle and support of the back and focus purely on the bones. hmmmmm. Just a thought haha. Geek Rant Over. xx

Gracie said...

I definitely have those days when I cry over anything. I feel so emotional and usually don't get much done because everything makes me cry.

Eepp your box is almost too easy to reach. I would have to put something like that away or I would be too tempted. x

ag. said...

YES! I can be such a basket-case sometimes...and cry at ANYTHING! And then I usually get down on myself more and it just gets worse before it gets better!

a life of color said...

I have super-emotional days quite often. Actually, I had one today. They seem to get worse when I am overtired. UGH awful awful!!

this free bird said...

i got your msg. i'm always here, even if i'm delirious. oy

xo,
c

Styles 'n Cream said...

I think we all have days like that - it is part of this rollercoaster called life. I do hope tomorrow is a bighter, happier day for you.

daniela said...

Aww *hugs* ya it definitely happens more than I'd like it to, and it always happens at the most inappropriate time - like when I ton to do at work & REALLY need to focus...but can't!
At least you stayed out of The Box though!! :)

Faiza said...

i have a box too and sometimes you just need to lean into the pain and let it remind you, teach you what you truly love. it is as beautiful a part of who you are as all the joy you have in you.

i had an awful car accident years ago and had to go through adjustments, rigorous massage therapy and endless doctors visits. i remember my chiropractor and massage therapist both telling me that a natural reaction to all of this was going to be tears, especially after a treatment. and they were right, sometimes, i would cry with a smile on my face, sometimes in agony and other times i had no reaction at all.

Crazy Shenanigans-JMO said...

Oh no, that sucks that your back is hurting so bad. Usually it takes a couple of times for them to work on you before it starts feeling any better.

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